Need to over come the petty weaknesses in the heart.
She said and he said that...
and
He does this and she does not do that ...
Who cares???
The reality is that we are all going to DIE someday and when that happens all we have is EACH OTHER.
We need Vaisnavas to chant at our deathbed - or can you guarantee you will be in a sound state of mind to do it yourself?
So we have to be really fixed in our sadhana and develop a taste to serve through hearing and chanting on a daily basis.